Dr Kevin Leman, a family psychologist whose writing I have enjoyed, asks parents to consider “Are you running a house or a hotel?” When your kid drops a towel on the floor, does the maid pick it up? Does the front desk provide convenient reminders to pack backpacks, and remember library books? Is there express laundry service when too many socks have been abandoned under the bed instead of making the journey to the laundry chute?
Not only does my daughter get tired of me telling her to do things, I get tired of listening to myself!
Enter the chore chart. We have tried various systems but perhaps never really thought through what outcome we were trying to achieve. I would like to improve her independence, reduce my nagging, and give her more experiences with money.
We settled on 6 basic items to do every day, and an opportunity to earn up to $5.00 a week. This money can be used for her personal church contributions, earrings at Claire’s, apps for iPad, and the like. I hope this experience can provide a foundation for the bigger “wants” that await in middle school… iPhones, Ugg boots, Vera Bradley backpacks. Mom and Dad definitely live by a budget and when we make a luxury purchase we see what kind of a bite it takes out of our fun money.
We printed a chart off that she can maintain, and she will be paid on Saturdays when we close out our budget week. We shall see how it goes… day 1 was fantastic and quite refreshing for me!
What experiences have you had with getting your children to contribute to the work of running the household?